Family Viewing Before Cremation: Customs, Practices, and Cultural Differences
The practice of allowing family members to view the body of the deceased before cremation is a significant aspect of funeral customs around the world. This article explores the various practices, the reasons behind them, and the cultural differences in how this custom is observed.
Practice in Funeral Homes and Crematoria
Generally, it is a required procedure that a family member identifies the body at the funeral home before any processes are started. This ensures that the correct individual is being cremated. In the U.S., most funeral homes require a family member, typically a spouse, child, or relative, to confirm the identity of the deceased before the cremation process begins.
A Personal Experience
I have personally witnessed this process on two occasions. In both instances, the remains of a loved one were identified before cremation. This personal confirmation process is crucial to avoid any mix-ups during the sensitive and final stages of the cremation process.
Pre-arrangements and Customary Practices
In some families, like my mother’s, pre-arrangements are made, ensuring specific instructions for the post-death care of the body. My mother requested her body to be cremated immediately after the identification process. The family members were taken aback when her urn was displayed with a photograph rather than in a traditional coffin. This demonstrates the evolving nature of funeral practices and how families can choose to personalize the process to reflect their wishes.
Cultural Variations
In the UK, the practice varies. You can visit the funeral director and have the coffin opened if you so choose. There is also a legal right for immediate family members to be present in the cremation room and see the coffin being placed into the cremator. However, it is a rarity for people to exercise this right.
Personal Experiences from Abroad
When my wife passed in Germany, the hospital provided a private room for me to see her one last time. Given that no other family members were in the country, the decision to proceed without them was made based on the circumstances. This incident highlights how personal circumstances can influence the approach to funeral arrangements.
Cultural Celebrations and Honors
Certain cultural backgrounds have unique ways to honor the deceased, demonstrating the diversity in funeral practices. For instance, in motorcycling clubs like the MC Clans, when a member passes away, a unique send-off is organized. Instead of the usual solemnity, there is a rock and roll music ceremony where substances are placed in the coffin to ensure a memorable farewell. This shows the significance of personal bonds and cultural heritage in the funeral process.
A Special Send-off
A specific account from the mid-1970s and early 1980s involves a particularly memorable send-off. We, as a chapter of the MC Clans, celebrated the member in a way that honored his life and respect. The farewell was marked by a ride back to the gathering place, forming a tight formation of bikes, which was a symbol of brotherhood and camaraderie. This event culminated in the cremation of the body, and we participated in the ceremony with respect and honor, ensuring a meaningful send-off both physically and spiritually.
Conclusion
The practice of family viewing before cremation is a deeply personal and culturally significant aspect of funeral customs. While the processes and customs may differ around the world, the underlying purpose remains the same: to honor the deceased and provide a sense of closure to their loved ones. Whether through solemnity, celebration, or personal rituals, these practices reflect the deep-rooted emotions and cultural values of the people involved.